He discovered that when people let go of the inaccurate road maps developed in childhood, and begin searching for more helpful life paradigms, they open the door for an amazing adventure.This started therapy to be getting working on issues in his marriage because he couldn’t figure out why being a nice guy didn’t make his wife happy or sexually interested in him.It’s not only a good reminder of myself on how to be a grounded person, but also because it might be interesting or useful for my readers. It’s been a while since I’ve read a dating/relationship book catered towards just men, but I think it’s always good to revisit these topics. I appreciate every donation as it goes directly to the maintenance costs of my blog and creation of new content. ~If you enjoy my summary, please consider buying me a coffee via my Ko-Fi link (click the button below) or support this blog in one of several ways! 📖 🎓 An integrated male can embrace everything that makes him unique – his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his fears, his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side.” -Audible It means being able to accept all aspects of oneself. Becoming integrated does not mean becoming different or better. Glover shows men how to become what he calls Integrated Males. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. This process of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows men to move through:Ĭontrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice. The inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to often feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.If I am good, then I will be liked and loved.

The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts. He also believes that he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others. He is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want him to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. Robert Glover, a pioneering expert on the Nice Guy Syndrome, is a man who believes he is not okay just as he is. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life by Dr. Get the audiobook on Audible 👇 (affiliate link)

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